In the words of Taylor Swift
I'm not a princess
This ain't a fairytale
I'm not the one you'll sweep off her feet
Lead her up the stairwell
This ain't Hollywood
and also in the word's of The Cheetah Girls lyrics
Then one day I realized the fairy tale life wasn't for me I don't wanna be like Cinderella
Sittin' in a dark old dusty cellar
Waiting for somebody, to come and set me free
I don't wanna be like Snow White waiting
For a handsome prince to come and save me
On a horse of white, unless we're riding side by side
Don't want to depend on no one else
I'd rather rescue myself
Hollywood love stories are great because they give people something to dream about and hope for. There's nothing wrong with dreaming that you'll have an epic romantic relationship. I support dreaming, hell I'm a dreamer myself, except I know when to wake up. Walking up to a guy that is way out of my league (as much as I hate leagues, they DO exist) and having him love me for who I am will probably never happen in my life, and I'm okay with that. I say probably because I believe that anything can happen, but at the same time I'm not going to to put all my hopes into a gamble. I'm overly sensitive, so my heart can't play games.
Let's not forget the title of this blog PRO-love but Anti-Valentine's Day. I'm not against love. Quite the contrary. I think love is one of the greatest emotions, probably the greatest. I've never been head over heels in love with a man, but I know what it feels like to have a tremendous love for family, friends, children, and animals. Love is an amazing feeling. To find one single person to love is probably equally as amazing. Idealy I want to be truely in love with someone. I want to love one person more than I love anything else, however I have a real problem with people who claim that without someone they have nothing.
Don't depreciate your self-worth. Everything you have is not in one person. Your boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife. fiance, etc. can mean the world to you but they are NOT the only thing you have. I hate phraes like "without you I have nothing". Just because you don't have someone, it does not mean that you don't have anything. You have friends, family, and you have yourself. Your life existed before "someone" came along, and if things work out for better and for worse then great! Consider yourself lucky and blessed, but if it doesn't work out remember that life will go on. I have friends that I just want to shake because they refuse to move on when a relationship ends. I can't udnerstand why they want to deprive themselves of happiness by dwelling on the past. You have the present and the future to make the most of, the past is over and behind you.
I guess I'm just full of opinions and lacking in experience. It's easy for me to preach about relationships I've never had. People have made me aware of this when I offer advice. They'll say things such as, "No offense, but you can't understand because you don't know what it's like". I have never claimed to be a relationship Guru, trust me I wouldn't want the stress of such a title anyways. I just know what I do and do not want when it comes to romance.
Speaking of "don't wants" now is as good a time as any to move onto the Anti-Valentines Day portion of my blog. I personally think Valentine's Day is stupid. No, I'm not just saying that because I'm single and bitter aboout it. Even if I were in a relationship right now I would not want my boyfriend to celebrate it. I feel like I shouldn't need a designated day for my man to show me that he loves me. That is just dumb. If you can't tell me that you love me, buy me flowers, cards, candy, and take me out to dinner on a random Tuesday, then don't tell me you love me on Valentine's day because you feel like you're "supposed" to. As far as I'm concerned any day and everyday should be Valentine's Day! It would mean a lot more to me to be told "I love you" on a day that is not an anniversary or "Hallmark Holiday". Valentine's Day is just another day after all. It holds the same opportunity as any other day.
To sum up Valentine's Days a whole: "Frankly my dear, I don't give a damn".